The inside of my head looks a bit like this
stfusexists:

alexandraerin:

nezua:

theuppitynegras:

kyssthis16:

witchsistah:

everythingrhymeswithalcohol:

fandomsandfeminism:

izzi527:

Perfect

Congrats on perpetrating racist, sexism bullshitty stereotypes. You are a scummy scummy person. 

Give her a voice?
GIVE?!
I’m more than pretty fucking sure they’re born with one.

If the only way you can see to “de-stereotype” anyone is to make them more White and Western, then the issue lies with YOU, not them.

This is some white nonsense if I ever saw it. This is why I don’t fux with white feminists. Y’all ruin things.

what in the name of god did I just read?

What you just read was yet another failed attempt at the right wing mentality attempting to usurp the use of humor and art—natural enemies of the conservative mind.

Uh, let’s not fob this one off on the right wing and conservatives… whoever made this cartoon, there are plenty of liberal feminists who feel exactly the same way, and we should be prepared to own that.
(Personally, I don’t know many conservatives who would consider a woman flipping people the bird and and telling people to shut up to be progress.)
Edit: Also, the stamp on the side says “atheistcartoons.com”. Yeah, let’s not blame this one on the right.

Disgusting. Here’s how to actually “de-stereotype” a Muslim woman: stop giving into your racist, xenophobic instincts and accept that she too is an individual.

stfusexists:

alexandraerin:

nezua:

theuppitynegras:

kyssthis16:

witchsistah:

everythingrhymeswithalcohol:

fandomsandfeminism:

izzi527:

Perfect

Congrats on perpetrating racist, sexism bullshitty stereotypes. You are a scummy scummy person. 

Give her a voice?

GIVE?!

I’m more than pretty fucking sure they’re born with one.

If the only way you can see to “de-stereotype” anyone is to make them more White and Western, then the issue lies with YOU, not them.

This is some white nonsense if I ever saw it. This is why I don’t fux with white feminists. Y’all ruin things.

what in the name of god did I just read?

What you just read was yet another failed attempt at the right wing mentality attempting to usurp the use of humor and art—natural enemies of the conservative mind.

Uh, let’s not fob this one off on the right wing and conservatives… whoever made this cartoon, there are plenty of liberal feminists who feel exactly the same way, and we should be prepared to own that.

(Personally, I don’t know many conservatives who would consider a woman flipping people the bird and and telling people to shut up to be progress.)

Edit: Also, the stamp on the side says “atheistcartoons.com”. Yeah, let’s not blame this one on the right.

Disgusting. Here’s how to actually “de-stereotype” a Muslim woman: stop giving into your racist, xenophobic instincts and accept that she too is an individual.

infamousnfamous:

MIAMI (Reuters) - A newly married South Florida man who opted to take his wife’s last name is fighting the state’s Department of Motor Vehicles after it suspended his driving license on grounds of fraud.

Real estate investor Lazaro Sopena offered to change his name following his 2011 marriage to Hanh Dinh in order to help his wife’s Vietnamese family perpetuate their family surname.

Shortly after their marriage, Lazaro Dinh obtained a new passport and Social Security card and changed his bank account and credit cards before applying to update his drivers license.

“It was an act of love. I have no particular emotional ties to my last name,” said Dinh, 40, who was born in Cuba and came to the United States at the age of 11 in 1984.

Lazaro Dinh was initially issued a new license after presenting his marriage certificate at his local DMV office and paying a $20 fee, just as newly married women are required to do when they adopt their husband’s name.

“It was easy. When the government issues you a new passport you figure you’re fine,” he said.

More than a year later Dinh received a letter from Florida’s DMV last December accusing him of “obtaining a driving license by fraud,” and advising him that his license would be suspended at the end of the month. Ironically, it was addressed to Lazaro Dinh.

“I thought it was a mistake,” he said.

But when he called the state DMV office in Tallahassee he said he was told he had to go to court first in order to change his name legally, a process that takes several months and has a $400 filing fee.

When he explained he was changing his name due to marriage, he was told ‘that only works for women,’” he said.

“Apparently the state of Florida clings to the out-dated notion that treats women as an extension of a man,” said Lazaro’s lawyer, Spencer Kuvin, with Cohen & Kuvin in West Palm Beach. While it was unusual for a man to seek to be considered an extension on his wife, Dinh’s case raised important issues for gay marriage, he noted.

“If Lazaro isn’t allowed to change his name, what is going to happen when a gay couple seeks a name change?”

Only a few states have made their marriage name change policy gender neutral, Kuvin said. In Florida’s case it has no law, although the DMV’s website does not specify gender.

According to Kuvin, 9 states enable a man to change his name upon marriage: California, New York, Hawaii, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Oregon, Iowa, Georgia and North Dakota.

The Florida DMV did not respond to a request for comment.

Following a DMV hearing, Dinh was issued a Final Order on January 14 confirming that his license had been properly suspended for fraud.

He is now appealing that order but has not dared get behind the wheel.

“I don’t understand. I’m being treated like a highway criminal,” said Dinh, who said he has a perfect driving record and now is struggling to carry out his job, begging his wife and friends for rides.

Let’s be honest here…the only one guilty of fraud here is the Florida DMV. If the law specifies no gender, and the name change was done as a result of marriage, there is nothing illegal about what he is doing.

imbrittsimpson:

This is Fernando Faria, a student at Lehigh University and a misogynistic predator.  I met him one night while at a frat party with my girlfriend.  He first attempted to get just me to go to his dorm with him to smoke weed, when I refused and walked away, he tried to take advantage of my incredibly inebriated girlfriend and tried leading her away from myself and our two other friends.  He then tried getting her number, but was given mine instead.  When he texted me, a week later, he made up a story about meeting me somewhere else in an attempt to make me forget who he was/what he did.  However, one of the friends I was with recognized the picture he sent when I said I didn’t know him/didn’t remember meeting him/wasn’t at the place he said he met me on the day he met me.  After referring to my girlfriend as my girlfriend, he continued to call her my “friend,” “lol” at it and ask if I meant my friend.  After I called him out on lying and being a sexual predator, he attempted to deny it was him, called me over 10 times, was an asshole, and then demanded I delete the text log.  This is a gentle reminder that people like this exist and it should be brought to attention.  Unfortunately, it isn’t until we start publicly calling people out on their behavior will they modify it and other people can feel safe from such individuals.

I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, i urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of “affection” you are endorsing.

When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase “hitting on girls” comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the “it’s so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves her” asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While you’re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.

My daughter is `10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, “that just means he likes you” line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don’t hurt her and they don’t put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn’t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, “STOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING ME” in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, “he probably has a crush on you”. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice givers’ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid’s ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldn’t say, “he probably just wants a play date”.

I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn’t deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn’t involve hitting girls. I can’t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I can’t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.

The next time that someone offers up that little “secret” to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, “I LOVE YOU”.

You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face « Views from the Couch (via plightofthepretty)

When a boy wouldn’t stop annoying me and my female friends in primary school, after weeks of uselessly telling him to go away, I decided to launch a more effective, long, dispassionate verbal retaliation to make it clear he was nothing to us. It worked. He didn’t bother us again, and we went on playing our games, uninterrupted by having shit thrown at us.

I went home and told all this to my mom, who knew he’d called me names, thrown rocks at me and twisted my arm for no reason, all after he’d rejected my offer of friendship by calling me some rude word I can’t remember now (once another boy started kicking me off the monkey bars and calling me ‘fuck-face,’ every other mean name anyone called me in primary school sort of got blown out of my memory), kinda expecting her to be proud of me for standing up for myself and my friends.

Except she got this worried look on her face. Worried for him, it turns out. She told me, “Awww, it sounds like he just liked you. Did you really have to break his spirit like that?”

In other words, who cares about me and my friends being hurt and having our moods and funtimes dampened by a little shit who gets away with language and behaviour teachers only ever seemed to punish and call parents over when it was a girl using them, this boy’s ego is more important. 

(screw not having to do essays, primary school sucked)

prisillysaurus:

“You aren’t on our minds, and we don’t care what you think is attractive or unattractive. We aren’t trying to be beautiful for you. If we were, we’d walk around in Victoria’s Secret fashion show lingerie all the time… actually, that would be kinda fun.”

I love this video.

Not everyone who looks ‘real’ is real and, most importantly, not everyone who looks fake is fake.” I love this sfm.

Word. Women aren’t just raised to look good for men, we are raised to look good for the world. My mother didn’t buy five year old me dresses and hair decs to attract sexual attention from men. She didn’t encourage me to care for my hair and skin and teach me how to shave my legs properly years before I was a teenager to attract sexual attention from men.

Whenever I have told her, throughout all my years, that I would be hanging out with a group of girls, she’d still dress me in/suggest nice clothes and jewellery and makes faces when I wear something she thinks is too “homely.”

If all men went blind/missing/uninterested in looks tomorrow, plenty of women would still like to look good, which can range from “presentable” to “fucking fabulous”.

So a Girl Walks into a Comedy Club….

everythingbutharleyquinn:

Woman objects to stand-up rape jokes, comedian says wouldn’t it be funny if she gets gang-raped.

HOLY FUCKING SHIT. 

Please reblog.

breakfastcookie:

This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.

So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the evening. We brainstormed ideas and she brought up the idea of seeing a show at the Laugh Factory. I’d never been, I thought it sounded fun, so we went. We saw that Dane Cook, along some other names we didn’t recognize we’re playing, and while we both agree that Cook’s style is not really our taste we were opened-minded about what the others had to offer. And we figured even good ol’ Dane can be funny sometimes, even if it’s not really our thing. Anyhoo, his act was actually fine, but then when his was done, some other guy I didn’t recognize took the stage. Of course, I would find out later this was Daniel Tosh, but at the time I thought he was just some yahoo who somehow got a gig going on after Cook. I honestly thought he was an amateur because he didn’t seem that comfortable on stage and seemed to have a really awkward presence. 


So Tosh then starts making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. I don’t know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON’T find them funny and never have. So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. So I yelled out, “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”

I did it because, even though being “disruptive” is against my nature, I felt that sitting there and saying nothing, or leaving quietly, would have been against my values as a person and as a woman. I don’t sit there while someone tells me how I should feel about something as profound and damaging as rape. 

After I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment. Then, he says, “Wouldn’t it be funny if that girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her…” and I, completely stunned and finding it hard to process what was happening but knowing i needed to get out of there, immediately nudged my friend, who was also completely stunned, and we high-tailed it out of there. It was humiliating, of course, especially as the audience guffawed in response to Tosh, their eyes following us as we made our way out of there. I didn’t hear the rest of what he said about me.

Now in the lobby, I spoke with the girl at the will-call desk, and demanded to see the manager. The manager on duty quickly came out to speak with me, and she was profusely apologetic, and seemed genuinely sorry about what had happened, but of course we received no refund for our tickets, but instead a comped pair of tickets, although she admitted she understood if we never wanted to come back. I can imagine the Laugh Factory doesn’t really have a policy in place for what happens when a woman has to leave in a hurry because the person onstage is hurling violent words about sexual violence at her. Although maybe I’m not the first girl to have that happen to her. 

I should probably add that having to basically flee while Tosh was enthusing about how hilarious it would be if I was gang-raped in that small, claustrophic room was pretty viscerally terrifying and threatening all the same, even if the actual scenario was unlikely to take place. The suggestion of it is violent enough and was meant to put me in my place.”

Please reblog and spread the word.

For censorship purposes, I believe Misha said something along the lines of, “This is the most unmanly scene this show has ever filmed.” There was a certain line that was just unacceptable. It was so out of character, and horrible- When you say it out loud it’s like, “Wow, I would never say that to another human being, especially a man. (Who wrote it?) I think it was Sera. Which makes sense, ‘cause, you know, she’s a girl. I mean, she writes amazing, she’s an amazing storyteller. But sometimes the language that she writes for the guys, sometimes there are some effeminate lines. And I don’t think it’s to any fault of her, it’s just the way she writes.

Jensen Ackles

Someone please tell me how the fuck any of that reads as a homophobic comment, because from what I can see you people are overreacting about nothing. If you want to read anything into it, they were describing the lines as being creepy more than anything else.

(via paprika-vision)

Are you kidding me? He said Misha called a scene where two men have an emotional talk (and the lines WERE NOT EVEN THAT EMOTIONAL there were quite in line with Dean’s difficulty with discussing emotions!) “unmanly” but clearly he actually said gay (which Misha said IN THOSE WORDS at the SAME CON) so he equated homosexuality with “unmanly” which is homophobic as fuck. He doesn’t believe that two men would ever say things like that. And in the context, you bet your ass he meant “gay” when he said “effeminate”.

And to top it all off he says Sera wrote the “sappy” line “‘cause, you know, she’s a girl” which was SO FUCKING SEXIST EXCUSE ME WHILE I PUKE IN MY MOUTH.

This whole statement is homophobic and sexist and if you don’t see it then I don’t know how to explain it to you because it is clear as day.

(via babblegirl)

currently doing some people creeping but I have to have to agree with the above. JUST READING THE QUOTE IS MAKING ME CRINGE ALL OVER AGAIN. 

equating the fact that sera gamble is a girl to her writing being “just unacceptable” and “horrible” - i mean, the lines were released, i don’t understand how that’s any “worse” (which, by jensen and misha’s terms apparently, means “too gay”) than so many other lines on the show (“dammit, cas! we can fix this” / “dean, it’s not broken” I MEAN THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT CAME OUT OF A ROMANTIC COMEDY BREAK UP SCENE WHERE EVERYONE’S MEANT TO CRY! but it was written by a dude, so, it probably didn’t really come across as that “gay” - “we’ve been through much together, you and i”, “i’d rather have you, cursed or not”)

just

how do some of these lines seem gross (dean kept the trench coat! i don’t understand how his dialogue about it was out of character? i am honestly thinking jensen does not really have a good grasp on dean!) when all the other corny, cheesy shit gets into the show. dean crying while he talks to his brother about his feelings is more “manly” 

I DON’T GET IT I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY BUT HOLY CRAP IF THIS QUOTE IS ANYTHING IT’S DEFINITELY SEXIST

(via crowleyshouseplant)

#i don’t even fucking care #that i’m going through this #jibcon bullcrap #all over again because god fucking damn #i do not understand how there are people who can defend this #how jensen saying that sera who has been on the show since the beginning #cannot write in character dialog because she is a woman #how can they not see that that is sexist as fuck? #how can they not see that jensen correlates ‘gay’ with ‘unmanly’ and clumsily tries to cover it up in an attempt to be ‘pc’ is anything but #heterosexist as fuck #wow fuck you jensen #why don’t we get any commentary about how incapable #the male dominating writing team is fucking incapable of writing women #or chromatic characters #or basically anybody who isn’t a fucking white man #JFC

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lacigreen:

once-more-sans-feeling:

Yes. I couldn’t have said it better myself.



How does the virginity thing even work broadly? Hello, very much into women here. Most women don’t have penises. I prefer saying “I’ve never had sex” to calling myself a virgin because I might never lose my ‘virginity’ as I’ve been taught to understand it (an understanding I don’t know I can change because it’s not even about some unfortunate history behind the word, it’s the widely used present meaning), even if I had lots of lovely sex with lots of lovely ladies who I nonetheless didn’t want to civil-union.
Also, I have always hated, hated, hated the legs shut thing. Especially when I was little and my mom told me to stop because girls don’t do that and telling me “that’s just the way it is” when I complained that boys sat legs apart all the time. And then when I didn’t listen she would get closer and closer to shaming me for being immoral, wrong or not a good girl without actually saying it. She didn’t need to because by then the meaning was implicit to me. I was five. I kept doing it out of indignation. She eventually gave up, but as she stopped caring and indignation became less of a motive, I started to worry every time I realized my knees were like an inch apart. And nowadays I leave them like that out of indignation still, only crossing my legs when I damn well feel like it.
If you wanted, you could sit there with your legs wide apart still waiting for that one special person. It’s not an invitation for sex. It’s reclining comfortably. Spread the word.

lacigreen:

once-more-sans-feeling:

Yes. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

How does the virginity thing even work broadly? Hello, very much into women here. Most women don’t have penises. I prefer saying “I’ve never had sex” to calling myself a virgin because I might never lose my ‘virginity’ as I’ve been taught to understand it (an understanding I don’t know I can change because it’s not even about some unfortunate history behind the word, it’s the widely used present meaning), even if I had lots of lovely sex with lots of lovely ladies who I nonetheless didn’t want to civil-union.

Also, I have always hated, hated, hated the legs shut thing. Especially when I was little and my mom told me to stop because girls don’t do that and telling me “that’s just the way it is” when I complained that boys sat legs apart all the time. And then when I didn’t listen she would get closer and closer to shaming me for being immoral, wrong or not a good girl without actually saying it. She didn’t need to because by then the meaning was implicit to me. I was five. I kept doing it out of indignation. She eventually gave up, but as she stopped caring and indignation became less of a motive, I started to worry every time I realized my knees were like an inch apart. And nowadays I leave them like that out of indignation still, only crossing my legs when I damn well feel like it.

If you wanted, you could sit there with your legs wide apart still waiting for that one special person. It’s not an invitation for sex. It’s reclining comfortably. Spread the word.

lacigreen:

uselessparadigm:

10knotes:

I feel so embarrassed and I can’t explain it.

“if women are so smart, why hasn’t there been a woman president?”

heartwormblues:

historicalslut:

thesavagesalad:

romantic-chasm:

it’s not a tiny bit of her career either. she’s disturbingly obsessed with the virgin/whore dichotomy. and she hates girls. we get it, she doesn’t party; she doesn’t have a lot of sex; she stays at home and gosh golly gee she’s so down to earth. PLEASE LOVE HER. 

  • “I remember seeing girls crying in the bathroom every Monday about what they did at a party that weekend.I never wanted to be that girl.”
  • “There’s more to life than dating the boy on the football team.”
  • “I was the girl who didn’t get invited to parties. My friends turned into the girls who stood in the corner and talked about me. But as soon as I picked up a guitar…I literally played until my fingers bled. My mom had to tape them up, and you can imagine how popular that made me: “Look at her fingers. So weird”. But for the first time in my life, those girls could say anything they wanted about me, because I was just going to go home after school and write a song about it.
  • the entire “you belong with me” song
  • “I’m not the girl who always has a boyfriend. I’m the girl who rarely has a boyfriend.”
  • “I don’t think I was born to be in the club. Just to throw that out there.”
  • I’m just another thing for you to roll your eyes at, honey. You might have him but haven’t you heard — — You might have him but I always get the last word.”
  • “I want a guy who takes charge, but lets me have my say once in a while. A good relationship is all about balance and chemistry.”
  • “If you cry over a guy, then your friends can’t date him. It can’t even be considered.”
  • “I suffer from girl-next-door-itis where the guy is friends with you and that’s it.”

the fact people celebrate Taylor Swift disturbs me greatly.

like wtf man

She is the poster child of internalized misogyny.

I want a guy who takes charge, but lets me have my say once in a while. 

ONCE IN A WHILE

ONCE IN A WHILE

ONCE IN A WHILE

“but lets me have a say every once in a while”

“lets me have a say”

“lets me”

“lets me”

“lets me”

UH

The problem that needs to be fixed is not kick all the girls out of YA, it’s teach boys that stories featuring female protagonists or written by female authors also apply to them. Boys fall in love. Boys want to be important. Boys have hopes and fears and dreams and ambitions. What boys also have is a sexist society in which they are belittled for “liking girl stuff.” Male is neutral, female is specific.

I heard someone mention that Sarah Rees Brennan’s THE DEMON’S LEXICON would be great for boys, but they’d never read it with that cover. Friends, then the problem is NOT with the book. It’s with the society that’s raising that boy. It’s with the community who inculcated that boy with the idea that he can’t read a book with an attractive guy on the cover.

Here’s how we solve the OMG SO MANY GIRLS IN YA problem: quit treating women like secondary appendages. Quit treating women’s art like it’s a niche, novelty creation only for girls. Quit teaching boys to fear the feminine, quit insisting that it’s a hardship for men to have to relate to anything that doesn’t specifically cater to them.

Because if I can watch Raiders of the Lost Ark and want to grow up to be an archaeologist, there’s no reason at all that a boy shouldn’t be able to read THE DEMON’S LEXICON with its cover on. My friends, sexism doesn’t just hurt women, and our young men’s abysmal rate of attraction to literacy is the proof of it.

The Problem is Not the Books by Saundra Mitchell (via becketted)